I do believe conversing with the gf is an error.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am
We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my solution to you will need to speak with her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july
And in addition, exactly what can you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am
I’m able to understand why you’d believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can simply get a handle on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being inconvenient. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies at all. It can you need to be yet another connect to the guy when it comes to LW, that is wanting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am
Thats a point that is good sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies with this particular number of dudes whom once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then it ended up being realised by me wasn’t the girls, its the people. Additionally the girls had been all people that are just normal, you realize, desired to understand if they’d a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, when that occurs enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU MAY BE!!
I do feel harmful to this GF that is new. She deserves to own a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he still longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW due to the fact guy is telling her a couple of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am
Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its hard being the very first gf after a long relationship, but thats why a lot of people go into these with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to prevent dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the means the crossdresser does it in Little Britain, perhaps you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior high school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up almost every other week, in which he would “accidently” text me personally or something like that just therefore we would fight and obtain back together.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and acquire right back together”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july
I’ve said here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word that is“crazy operate the other means. I’m sure therefore a lot of men whom utilize that word to full cover up with their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would call somebody crazy into the beginning. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The actual fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you should be ready to phone some body crazy, wouldn’t which means that you may be kinda crazy too?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! When the” that is“crazy away, Im operating one other means. I believe it had been said above- whenever you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, friend.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july
The truth is, that its partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this happened to her she most likely will be upset about this too, yet somehow she will continue to respond to this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am
Yep! We totally agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You must just recognize he’s maybe not your boyfriend as well as that you know he has a girlfriend is making you a bad guy in this too though you still like his attention, the fact.
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:35 am
That is a point that is great you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (i love you, eljay) said, someone has to be the adult in this situation if you really do respect their relationship and wish. If he’s maybe not happy to be, you need to do it.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – we trust you about talking to your gf. That knows just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting many times, but as the relationship is none of the company, the fact the LW and also the brand new gf have actually met now i do believe permits the LW some leeway. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not fundamentally need to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ in my experience and he’s the only calling, in which he explained you had been ok with this particular, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively, I became underneath the impression you had been ok with your being buddies, but i simply discovered I’m perhaps not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july
I’dn’t speak with the gf concerning this. If I had been dating somebody for 2 months the very last thing I would wish is the ex reconcom of three years reaching down to me personally. And merely to inform you which you respect her relationship? I might think you’re bullshitting me personally and playing mind games. Just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex you don’t like to hear them alone from him for a while, and then leave. Genuinely they probably won’t work-out because you might be nevertheless when you look at the image (which doesn’t do great things for a fresh relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, that we leave immediately if I were the new girlfriend and my bf and I ran into his ex at a bar I would also demand. It is therefore uncomfortable. Every person pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay as soon as your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually become OK with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am